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Interesting stuff. I think the "elephant" is a decent analogy for many things in life. It is truly amazing how disrespectful some people are when it comes to their curiosity - their desire for information supercedes their capacity for politeness.
Hopefully more people will take your advice...for many different situations.
And playing devil's advocate...
Having had many opportunities observing children (and probably being childlike at heart myself) I've often discovered that once a person's curiosity is sated and "the mystery" is gone, then the issue at hand becomes... well... a non-issue. It becomes a fact of life, and everyone can just move on. It's the mystery of not knowing that makes an issue larger than it deserves to be. Simple, straightforward honesty always has seemed the best policy to me.
Unless you are a physician, gathering data while preparing to cure an often-fatal affliction of a child born to a single mom, "not knowing" is how your curiosity will be answered. Adoption agencies legally protect paternal privacy, against the howls of those who demand to know.
Suppose your curiosity (and rudeness) is answered with "Oh, Daddy will be out of prison in ten years." You will not "move on", unless you mean with the next rude question. Privacy is a right. Maturity will teach you exactly why.
Child-like questions are expected from children, and may be answered in loving simplicity. Prying or thoughtless questions deserve any fitting response a mom deems necessary. The expectation of a perfect nuclear family is a recent societal anomaly. The truth is far removed from that expectation, and still is only the business of those who live their lives as they choose. Those individuals bear the responsibility of bringing up those little loved ones, they deserve a huge ‘hats off’, and their children deserve a loving pat on the head as they pass…
Sounds like a bunch of kids raising kids. Irresponsible behaviours and the like. Society doesn't need more rebellious audults acting like teens. We need responsible adults setting an example. It should be obvious, Don't encourage young girls into getting the wrong idea just because you need confirmation for poor choices....